Awesome Things Only Dads Can Do

There are certain awesome things in parenting that no one can do better than a Dad.
Because Mom has always been our go-to for nurturing and love, Dad is here to make sure we get a healthy dose of fun, and an occasional thrill! (which Mom better not find out)

Piggyback and Shoulder Rides
First on the list because moms get tired more quickly and dads just love giving rides like this.

Going to the mall or walking around the park? When your kids get tired and mom doesn't feel like carrying you around Dad offers the best option ever!

A shoulder ride with a top-of-the-world view as far as the eye can see.

Make Everything Funny
One time our son bumped into a glass wall because he thought it was an open door.

I was stunned with worry but Dad just laughed at the situation and soon enough our son did too. Even though it must have hurt, he forgot and so I forgot and now it's one of our funniest memories.

Energetic Playtime
It's tiring to play with a kid when you've just finished the laundry or logged off work. Dads always seem to have spare energy to play with the kids.

I don't know where he gets it, but I'm not gonna be a hero and get it. I'm absolutely fine watching from the sidelines.

Death-Defying Display of Love aka Rough-housing
Only dads can throw their kids around without them getting hurt, and even end up wanting to go one more time.

I personally love when my husbun teaches our son different types of locks. Now when they play our toddler gives him an arm lock. I sometimes worry if I should be worried about this kind of development.... hm.....

The Scary Big Voice
Moms can count to 3 and expect everyone in bed, but when nobody's listening only Dad can produce that alarming command that makes everyone jump into obedience.

Play Pretend
Boys will be boys, even when they've turned into men...or Dads.

So there's not better playmate for your kid than an overgrown, fat-bellied, fully bearded ninja warrior who can turn into a transformer truck!

Just Being Silly
Dads tend to do crazy, cool and weird stuff that mom never would.

And it's surprising and fun! Kids love the silliness and the unconventional, it makes life more interesting!

Bumming Around
It's actually relaxing, Dads love to bum around and do nothing with the kids too, or call for snack time.

Even though kids are energetic bumming around lets them appreciate quiet time and moms get a chance to take a break too. Thanks dad!

To run around and explore, I mean. Dads naturally let kids run wild and free in the garden and explore.

They just let them experience both pain and pleasure, and it's good because the kids learn and become independent.

The Great Outdoors and Exploring
Picking up caterpillars, poking at earth worms and collecting leaves and sticks.

Dad is always the braver and more enthusiastic companion! Because not all moms like touching creepy crawlies, Dad is definitely the adventure buddy.

Breaking the Ritual
Sometimes days can be so repetitive with mom, especially when things are busy at home

Bcause Dad is not as uptight, and a natural at practicing Hakuna Matata, kids get a break from the usual and all those stiff, uncomfy stuff melts away.

Incomparable Support
Dads are nothing like Moms. They're not on schedule, they don't know your friends' names or what time you get off from school... 

But they know what you enjoy doing; what sports you are into, what your hobby is and what food you like. And they tag along too!

Finding a Way
Whether it's date night, a hiking trip or just playing a video game at home, Dads seem to always find a way to have the kid along without sacrificing the fun.

And how cool is that, because you never feel you're a hindrance and Dads are living proof that if you want it enough there's always a way!

These things that Mom doesn't always see or even lack Dad comes to fill in.

While he's not omnipresent he's trying to provide for his kids in his own way, which certainly DESERVES recognition and appreciation.

He's your Parent too, never forget. 
So thank your Dad, it's his day today!

Love you, Papa

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Happimess will be giving away free printables every month, starting now!

Since I started making our own flash cards at home, my blog posts have gone scarce. To say thank you to all my readers, if there's still any left (after my hiatus)... I decided to share these learning materials I made.

Use them for your own fun parenting and to help your child learn through play! Most of our freebies will be printables or second images you can view/show on your phone, so you won't have to go buy overpriced booklets and have them pile up in oblivion.

so... I hope you find these little things useful!

For this month of June, here's a Monster Numbers flash card set (Nos.1-10) by yours truly.

Here's a Sample! Click Image to Download the Set

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You, Your Toddler and the Word "No!"

Toddlers act on impulse; they decide almost instantly and seem to just want everything. When they can't have it they become soooo emotionally out of control, they make a woman on her period look tame.

Getting the No
Most of the time your little one goes on a fit of rage, or despair, when he gets the iron "No". The word isn't entirely negative, but how it's being used makes it come off as harsh or unloving to kids. This makes it one of the top triggers for emotional bouts and the intro to another man y mano challenge.

How Often Do We Say No?
To be honest, we parents say "No" a lot. It's almost part of every sentence in most conversations with our kids:

  • They pick up an unknown object on the floor we say No.
  • They sneakily try to unlock our phone or tablet and we catch them, we say No.
  • They ask for that absurdly expensive toy and we say No.
  • They refuse to eat, we say No.
  • They try to get our sympathy over something unknown, we say No.

How Do We Say No?
And it doesn't really end there. On some really damned day, (let's say you had the most stressful week and just needed some peace and quiet) they pull at your arm like it's a rubber band for who knows what reason..

We Shout, We Yell, We Angrily Say "NO!"

Suddenly it's not just a No. It becomes a passionate, emotional and even aggressive NO. Sometimes we don't even pause to listen to know what they want or check what's really happening, we just say No and shut them off...

and it hurts their feelings.

Of course it does!

We are their go-tos when things get scary and confusing. When they don't understand something or are unable to do what they want or say how they feel, they rely on us to teach them how.

So how would you feel if your best friend said No to you when you need him/her most?

Why Do We Say No?

Saying No is meant to keep our little ones safe or behaved. We say No so they don't fall off the chair, eat food scraps from the floor or run with a barbeque stick on hand. Unfortunately, many times we say out of sheer tiredness.

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We just want a day of peace where nobody wakes you up at 3 am for another cold glass of water.

We say No to put an end to a scene we don't want to handle "right now", and it is an easy exit. It is walking out, it is emotional quitting.

Our kids are not unaffected. They tend to feel neglected and sometimes insecureThat's what's wrong with "No". It's not the word itself, it's how we say it and why we say it that way.

Before We Say No...

Before we say No, let's think for a moment how we feel and if we need a time out first. Saying No is not always helpful.

Most of the time, "No" is not enough. Our kids need to know WHY we are saying no. So when we do decide to let that word out, it's best that we follow-up with an explanation:

  • No, you can't eat that because it's already dirty.
  • No, you can't eat any more chocolate because your teeth will rot.
  • No, you can't hit someone even when you're angry because it will hurt them.

I know it's lengthy and twice the effort for correcting a small mistake, a simple behavior or a milli-second disaster, but it is worth it in the long run. Our kids will LEARN, they will UNDERSTAND.

Let's Be Responsible Parents

Being self-aware is important. You get to catch what you're doing wrong and be able to correct it, before any damage is done.

So learn to self-reflect sometimes and think about what triggers you and how you can change that.

Our purpose as parents is to TEACH our kids what's GOOD and help them to keep doing it, even when they've grown up and can think for themselves. Keeping ourselves in check first before we keep our kids in check is a must.

We have to set examples to and change always begins in the self before others. Besides, our kids have us to correct their behavior but nobody can keep watch on us when we do something wrong. So be aware and: